I've picked up a great book I started reading a few years ago.

"Lack of self-trust could also result in your not being able to set limits with others. Larry had a great deal of difficulty with this issue. He would say yes when he really meant no. Whenever anyone asked for volunteers or a favor, he was the first in line. He would agree to do something even when he knew deep down inside that he was already overloaded or simply uninterested. As a result, he was always taking on more that he could handle. He would frequently get physically sick from being burned out. At other times he would rebel and become completely irresponsible, letting people down who were counting on him.

Trusting your perceptions of others and of your own needs and limits is critical to having a high self-esteem and, ultimately, health relationships. Otherwise you are constantly taking care of others at the expense of your own needs. Additionally, it is important to verbalize your needs to others do not have to read your mind. It is important to learn how to trust your gut-feeling response and to honor it. This means learning to say no when your gut tells you no and learning how to speak up when the little voice inside you says, Hey, you, wake up, I need something.

How doe sthis lack of trusting yourself manifest in an intimate relationship? Many wounded men are fearful of expressing their inner needs and feelings. As a result there is lack of communication. This includes not discussing highly charged topics such as childhood abuse. Are you fealful of talking about the abuse with your partner? Do you fear your partner's judgment, or worse, complete rejection? Are you afraid of appearing weak or crazy? Do you think your relationship can endure a disclosure such as this? Perhaps you fear that your partner doesn't have the time for your problems."

I've been dropping things all day. physical things. like when i was making dinner i managed to make a slice of toast, a hamburger patty, and a collander all fall within 5 seconds of each other. I looked at the counter and floor and thought "what is going on with me?"